One procedural choice within a non-negotiable task. Children who refuse to dress when given no choice often cooperate immediately when given a sequence choice because the resistance was about control, not the clothes.

How to do it

1"You're getting dressed. Socks first or shirt first? You pick."
2Accept the choice immediately. No commentary.
3Continue through each item: "Trousers or jumper?"
4Their sequence is the right sequence. Never override it.

Variations

Rejects both options: shrink the choice instead of repeating it — "left sock or right sock first?" A smaller, sillier version of the same structure usually lands where the original didn't.
The last item they choose is the last item, full stop — "That's the last one, you're dressed" — closes the game inside the task itself instead of announcing a separate end.

💡 Parent tip

Override the choice once and the technique fails for three days. Accept whatever they choose.

What your child develops

Autonomy within structure — a real choice within a non-negotiable task satisfies the need for control
De-escalation — removing the power struggle removes the conflict's energy source
Decision practice — sequencing steps is an everyday executive function exercise